The S-Anon Checklist
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Have you felt hurt or embarrassed by
someone’s sexual conduct? |
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2. |
Have you secretly searched for clues
about someone’s sexual behavior? |
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3. |
Have you lied about or covered up another
person’s sexual conduct? |
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4. |
Have you had money problems because of
someone’s sexual behavior? |
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5. |
Have you felt betrayed or abandoned by
someone you loved and trusted? |
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Are you afraid to upset the sexaholic for
fear that he or she will leave you? |
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7. |
Have you tried to control somebody’s
sexual thoughts or behavior by doing things like throwing
away pornography, dressing suggestively, or being sexual
with them in order to keep them from being sexual with
others? |
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8. |
Have you used sex to try to keep peace in
a relationship? |
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9. |
Have you tried to convince yourself that
someone else’s sexual thoughts and behavior shouldn’t bother
you? |
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10. |
Have you felt that sex plays an
all-consuming role in your relationship? |
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11. |
Have you doubted your attractiveness,
your emotions, and your sanity? |
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12. |
Have you felt responsible for the sexual
behavior of another person? |
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13. |
Have you felt angry and/or stupid for not
knowing about someone’s sexual acting out behavior? |
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14. |
Have you engaged in uncomfortable,
unwanted, or physically dangerous sexual behavior? |
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15. |
Have you ever thought about or attempted
suicide because of someone’s sexual behavior? |
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16. |
Has your preoccupation with someone’s
sexual thoughts and behavior affected your relationships
with your children, your co-workers, and/or other friends or
family members? |
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17. |
Have you neglected your physical and/or
emotional health while in a relationship? |
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18. |
Have you helped someone get out of jail
or other legal trouble, or feared legal action as a result
of his or her sexual behavior? |
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19. |
Have you blamed other people, such as
friends or sexual partners, society in general, his/her job,
religion, or birth family for someone’s sexual behavior? |
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20. |
Have you felt confused about what is true
when talking with someone about his or her sexual thoughts
or behavior? |
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Have you avoided painful emotions by
using drugs, alcohol, or food or by being too busy? |
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Have you ever felt that someone was
inappropriately attracted to you or your children? |
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23. |
Have you felt alone or too ashamed to ask
for help? |
If you can answer "yes" to some of these questions, you may find help in
S-Anon.
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Family Groups, Inc., Nashville, TN. Compliance with S-Anon
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S-Anon International Family Groups
P.O. Box 111242
Nashville, TN 37222-1242
(800) 210-8141 or (615) 833-3152
